What are your mirrors showing you?

WHAT ARE YOUR MIRRORS SHOWING YOU?

When one has a problem, the logical solution is to think about the problem and create various outcomes or solutions to address what is wrong.  This often leads to much analysis and perhaps worry about whether or not the solutions will work to address the problem.  We tend to get caught in overthinking and the worry about what may come.  Most of us are taught this method of problem-solving.  Figure it out if it’s a problem, solve it and move on.  While this method can be helpful in some situations, it can also keep us locked up in the same problem over and over again.  When we just seek to find a solution to the current problem and are not seeking to explore the deeper issue, the problem will often present itself in another form.

Take for instance relationships.  Perhaps you have been in a relationship where you don’t feel valued or appreciated.  This imbalance leads to resentment and even anger.  You begin thinking in your mind about how to solve this issue.  Do you leave the relationship? Do you explain how you feel and hope for change? Do you just keep on in the relationship hoping the person will change?   

I was in a friendship where I felt resentful because I wasn’t honoring myself.  I was always wanting to ensure the other person was happy and I often sacrificed myself to make this happen.  Doing favors, spending money on them I didn't have and doing things that ultimately left me resentful and feeling taken advantage of. 

I decide to walk away from the relationship, as it wasn’t feeling good.  Problem solved, right?  Well not exactly!  Because I was just looking for a solution to solve the immediate issue and I didn’t seek deeper and ask questions, such as, “why is this happening”?  “What am I doing to create this”?  Is there an opportunity for me to change a belief or pattern that I’m holding on to?” 

Walking away created a temporary solution, but my lack of awareness to go deeper, just recreated the same situation in another relationship.  If I really wanted to change, I would have asked myself those questions and began to uncover the deeper issues as to why this was occurring in my life.   Through my journey, I’ve learned that everything is my creation and every relationship is a mirror in which for me to perceive myself.  When I would move into blame or point a finger at someone else, I now know I was avoiding something within me that was requiring my attention. 

I’ve also come to realize that all of our problems, issues, emotions, and feelings are ways for us to acknowledge when we’re not in self-love.  Everything and every person is showing us what is going on inside and if what you’re seeing and experiencing is less than loving, there’s something within to explore.

This is the work I do on myself every day as well as with my clients.  When we’re willing to not just solve the problem as an outside experience and go within to see what is being reflected, we free ourselves from repeating the same issue.  This is a daily practice of awareness, self-reflection, asking questions, and being willing to take full ownership of what we’re creating.  It’s not easy, but it is worth it because we are worth it! 

I hope this message opens your heart a little more!  Happy reflecting!

Much love,

Jen
 

SPIRITUAL WISDOM: Much More Than Knowledge

I have been on a spiritual journey of sorts since I was 19, after taking my first Reiki class and reading a few key books that opened up my mind and soul to the possibilities of understanding spiritual wisdom that has yet to be scientifically explained.  This metaphysical world fascinated me, and I dove in to learn as much as a could about topics such as energy healing, law of attraction, reprogramming the subconscious mind and accessing intuition. After 20 years of exploring and growing on this path, I’ve come across many ah-ha’s and many understandings that often would dispel previously held beliefs.  I want to share a couple of experiences that you or others may be having that may support you.

Spiritual wisdom is much more than knowledge! I’ve read a ton of books, listened to well-respected/well-known spiritual teachers, taken umpteen classes and then would wonder why after all these teachings and knowledge, nothing was really changing.  All of the understandings and experiences I had were wonderful, but I really only had intellectual understandings, because I did not fully incorporate or practice what I learned, but instead would be stuck in my mental mind.  I did not impact much change on an energetic level.  For example, I understood the concepts of “The Law of Attraction” inside and out and even would apply it “sometimes”, but until I really began to immerse myself into the law of attraction as a daily, even hourly practice, it would just remain an understanding. It was helpful to have information about these concepts, but wasn’t making the improvements I was hoping for until I actually deepened my experience and began to apply the information daily and energetically.

There is no end to uncover what needs healing if you keep digging.  In healing, you may have heard the term, “peeling away layers of the onion,” meaning layer by layer we address healing around all the negative or traumatic events we’ve endured.  Well, let me shed some light on this topic.  There are an infinite number of layers that we can continue to peel and heal!  Think about the eons of past lives you have had and all the trauma and drama you’ve experienced.  After many years of peeling my onion, it felt like there was no end in sight.  I was disheartened, as there was issue after issue which I recognized created my limiting beliefs, negative emotions and energetic blocks.

Once I stopped looking into what needed “fixing” in my past and started to invest my energy and my time on what I wanted to create in the present and the future, it was a game changer for me.  I began to manifest and attract what I wanted in life.  I began to see my choices from an empowered perspective versus being a victim of my circumstances from the past.  I now get to choose from a place of creating as I no longer seek to “heal” the past. I know that I am perfect just the way I am and so are you!  I powerfully know that I create my life with the choices I make, and in doing so, the past crap just dissolves away because it can no longer live in the light that I have chosen to live in.

There are many ah-ha moments along the path and these are a couple that have been highlighted for me over the past year or so.  Just remember to trust yourself along the way, as all the truth and wisdom resides within you, not without.